Relationship Troubles - Divorcing - Surviving a Break up - Being Single - Starting again
Every day, we help people like you to feel happy, calm, in control, confident, assured, motivated, energetic, more healthy, sexy, successful, peaceful and with a clear sense of meaning and purpose and fulfilled in their relationships.
This will appeal to you:
if your relationship has lost its sparkle and you have lost direction
if you or your partner/spouse have ended your relationship and you feel heartbroken with damaged self-esteem;
if trust has somehow been broken in your relationship;
if you realise you are in a co-dependant relationship where your sense of value is based on how your partner perceives you and you have forgotten who you are or if you even like yourself;
if you find yourself in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship but are afraid to confront or leave;
if you know you have a pattern of commitment phobia or a fear of intimacy;
if you fear being on your own;
if you are in conflict with your partner/spouse a lot without constructive resolution;
if you feel like your partner has lost desire for you;
if you would love to have a relationship but don’t have the confidence to go on a date or you find yourself repeatedly attracting the wrong type of person;
if you fear starting again with your ex-partner or meeting someone new;
if you feel misunderstood in your relationship;
if you want to see if there is any chance of winning your ex-back;
if you are going through divorce;
you want to find love again.
How we can help
If you are Surviving a Break up/Divorce/Emotional or Physical Abuse
We will help you to come to terms with the loss of the relationship and any pain you may feel but also help you make sense of why it ended and if there is any possibility of resurrecting it. We will look at your life and if it is balanced, your self-esteem, any emotional lessons to be learned or limited beliefs you may be holding. We will also allow time for you to express how you feel in a safe and private way, adjust to this new situation and plan for your future.
Whilst we work with a Couple
Whilst we work with a couple, they have expressed they particularly like that we operate like the Go-between, we will often see you as individuals separately so we can give you time and room to just be yourself on your own to get off your chest all that you feel first. We will ask each of you about your backgrounds and learned experience of love.
If you are fully recovered from heart break or simply Single and would like to find a healthy romantic relationship we will work with you to ensure you are not holding any limiting beliefs, affected by any unresolved trauma, comfortable being on your own, loving & respecting yourself and then we will focus on what sort of person would be right for you and how to attract him or her.
Online Relationship and Divorce Counselling
Using expertise, tools, experience and insight as professional qualified online Counsellors, drawn from over 10 years of success with clients we know the right questions to ask. If you’re looking for divorce counselling in London & Bristol or even further afield the great thing about being an online counsellor is location isn’t an issue. We really listen and learn all about you and your life and then we use special tools and techniques best tailored to your situation and personality to help you draw out the answers and understand what has happened to you in the past and why you feel and behave the way you do in and outside a relationship.
Then we identify what is getting in the way of your happiness and help you to safely release those painful feelings and get rid of any limiting beliefs/fears which may be colouring your perception of yourself, others and the world around so that you can move forwards, feeling happy inside, know who you are, feel calm, confident, in control and have the life and relationship you really want.
How we will deliver these results for you
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Weekly 50-minutes high-quality online video calls with you (working towards your desired outcomes).
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Sessions are structured and include detailed history taking.
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Using an integrative approach with interactive, creative, talking therapies We are able to draw on a range of techniques and approaches tailored to suit your personality and needs.
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Techniques and creative tools to both recognise and release painful feelings Identifying and releasing emotional wounds frozen in time currently in your subconscious mind.
Various types of journaling,
Drawing tools and writing tools
Your Timeline
Emotional Inventories
Questionnaires
Physical techniques and tools
Anchoring new beliefs and overcoming habits (NLP) and other exercises.
And many more
All explained clearly and sent direct to you via email.
You will be encouraged to take ownership in the process so in time when you feel ready to go it on your own again you will no longer need the Therapist or any other Counsellor again.
Clients have fed back that online sessions were surprisingly just as personal a feeling as face to face, with no travel costs or time is taken up and can fit around your busy lifestyle or time zone with more appointment flexibility at short notice. The therapy goes at your pace and the number of sessions will vary according to your needs but as soon as you feel you have achieved what we agreed then formal sessions will come to an end and maintenance sessions are available on an ad hoc basis if clients wish whilst they are starting their new lives.
A dread I have is that clients might think I would keep them attending longer than they need but I take pride in saying I have never done this my whole career and often I am the first to say – ‘Do you know I feel you are ready to do this on your own now. I think you are ready." Honesty, integrity and trust are my top three personal values. - Sarah Cunliffe
I have a broad outlook on life and have worked in other different industries in the past too. Once known by my friends as ‘Bridget’ (after Bridget Jones) – I am happy to say I am now been in a long term healthy, respectful relationship for some years but getting there I had to learn that security can only come from inside you, love is not enough on its own, you must always be true to yourself and let others see who you really, you need to also have a fulfilling and balanced life of your own are and that if you are going to love someone – throw your hole heart in and don’t hold back – the rewards are massive and worth the risk of abandonment that so many avoid taking. - Sarah Cunliffe
Can you Trust us?
By choosing a fully qualified BACP* Registered Member and National Counselling Society Accredited Counsellor recognised by the NHS you get the following as standard:
30 Counsellor hours of mandatory continuing professional development each year.
The Latest informed approaches in Counselling/NLP
Your Counsellor reports in to and is monitored by a Supervisor to ensure the Counsellor is fit to practice and in adherence with the Code of Ethics of the Training body of your Counsellor.
Compliance with the Data Protection Act 1974 and GDPR. Password protected online meetings and secure data storage.
Full Professional Indemnity and Public Liability Insurance
A clear understanding of the professional boundaries and sanctity of the Therapeutic Relationship only exists within the counselling session and safeguards the client.
*(British Association for Counsellors and Psychotherapists)
Book Your Initial Consultation
If you would like to book an initial consultation to discuss your situation, what you want to achieve and learn about how Therapeutic Counselling can specifically help. We look forward to seeing how we might help you.
Case Study – Jim & Phoebe (names changed)
They were on the cusp of relationship collapse when I helped them individually to look into their past using the timeline tool & other tools which helped them to understand that emotional wounds they separately experienced in childhood had led them one of them to feel unheard and the other to be terrified of conflict for fear it might lead to abandonment. Having identified this I was able to help each of them to safely and privately release their individual suppressed and out of date childhood feelings that were affecting their adult relationship. They had also experienced very different learned experiences of love as children (one showing & understanding love through sexual physical touch whilst the other showing love through practical acts of service.
They weren’t recognising the love being communicated and both felt unappreciated. So, I then focussed on them learning and speaking each other’s different love languages. I worked as the go between and soon enough both felt more loved, heard, secure and happy. Feeling more secure and heard the couple then learned not to run away from conflict but to focus on hearing each other out rather than just winning the argument & together they learned that they could assert without shouting and that they could make the experience less stressful and without the risk of being rejected. After they shared with me that they had moved into together, enjoyed a much more fun and fulfilling sex life and were planning their marriage.
‘Sarah has been the most wonderful therapist and has had an enormous impact on my partner and I’s lives. '
'Her unobtrusive and supportive approach made us both feel so welcome and able to open up to her, and she has completely turned our relationship around. We both felt truly listened to by her and her skilful approach in helping us to understand how the other person was feeling has moved our relationship from the verge of a break up to the most stable and positive it has ever been.
Sarah is clearly very in tune with how to get the best from people, working with us both in similar but different ways to meet our needs. I can’t recommend Sarah enough for any couples who are in need of guidance and support. Her therapy sessions have been truly life changing for us. Thank you, Sarah,’