Imposter Shame Test
Please add up your score as you go through and once you have a total score see the criteria below
Agree = 1.5
Agree slightly = 1
Disagree = 0.5
0-14 Very few Imposter syndrome feelings, beliefs and behaviours
15-28 Moderate Imposter syndrome feelings, beliefs and behaviours
29-56 Strong Imposter syndrome feelings, beliefs and behaviours
If your score is greater than 14 then it is likely you place great value on achievements and hard work and unconsciously use these mood altering behaviours to compensate for not feeling good enough inside.
You are also likely to feel constant anxiety, fatigue and possibly depression.
You may well be hard on yourself, a perfectionist and hide your feelings suffering in isolation.
You may also be the opposite however and procrastinate for the very same reason, afraid you will fail or others will see the flaws in your work.
Moderate to strong IS tendencies
You will drive yourself to work harder or more perfectly in order to feel you are of worth and good enough however no matter how hard you try to do things to make yourself feel of worth that good enough feeling will be short lived as deep-down underneath is a deep-seated limiting belief that no matter what you do you are not good enough.
As a reaction to losing that good enough feeling you will quickly feel the need to get back on to the hamster wheel and again unconsciously chase your worth and success again but this leaves you in a constant state of anxiety, tiredness and a feeling of emptiness. You may recognise it as a lonely, shameful feeling which often comes with anxiety or depression.
You may spend unreasonable amounts of time on your work, hoping to get it perfect. Or you may procrastinate for the very same reason or people please or over-care give towards others in an attempt to feel good again.
There are those who attribute their success to luck, connections, or their likable personalities. And there are those who believe they succeeded because they worked harder than everyone else despite their perceived lack of skills and intelligence.
So, the question you must have now is: Why do I feel this way? How can I get rid of it?
As a Counsellor over the years I have seen hundreds of clients turn up for a consultation full of the same phrases: ‘I don’t know who I am’, ‘I can see logically that I am doing well in my job/relationship/ endeavours yet no matter what I do or how much I achieve I am still left with a deep conflicted feeling that I am not good enough or an imposter’ and/or ‘I am a perfectionist’, or ‘I have a very addictive personality’ or ‘I get my greatest pleasure when caring for others but do not know what I would like for myself and sometimes I do get worn out or resentful but I know I shouldn’t’. ‘I just would rather be anyone other than me.
Why do I feel like that?’ They ask. These are some of the sorts of things I hear along with many more…. and as ever I smile inside as I know I am likely to be in front of someone whose life will be changing for the better from this day forward. Now don’t get me wrong, it takes time, owning your journey, practising, and also working through your past - but believe me it’s completely worth it.